I was having a conversation with a friend who had lost her husband two years ago in a horrible car accident. Since his passing, she's been going to see Mediums and psychics, and interested in knowing more about the after-life, and I had just come home from a Spirit fair and had a past life reading and a reiki session; both experiences left me wanting to understand more about how these healers were able to interact with spirit.
As we sat and chatted, I found myself closing my eyes and it made it a lot easier for me to find my words. I don’t know what my friend thought of this haha but, I felt like I had summoned the Buddha within me.
My friend was saying that she's not hearing or seeing the signs, she's listening and getting quiet but nothing is coming...
With my eyes closed, I said: it starts with meditation.... Getting so present, that you are able to rise above your body and see yourself...
A couple of days later, it was Family day and we were going for a bike ride. Ria my daughter is starting to get pretty confident with her pedal bike, but I know she is always trying to keep up. My husband stayed back with her, while I rode ahead with the boys and I was trying to get a good speed going because I don't like the feeling of someone being on my tail and I also didn't want my boys to feel like I was going too slow for them, as I was leading the pack. Suddenly, I heard a voice in my head urging me to slow down and feel.
This voice had me reflecting on something I noticed on the weekend. When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is put on my indoor slippers. My slippers shield me from the discomfort of the cold, sticky and hard floors, but I realized in that moment that I was just numbing myself to life's sensations, and also allowing myself the convenience of not having to clean my floors as often as I should . It dawned on me that by avoiding discomfort, I was also blocking myself from being present and grounded.
When I am not feeling, I am not being present, and then I am also not able to feel grounded. Think of monks, animals, and the most grounded beings you know, they all are bare footed. Since then, I've been asking myself: what else in life am I masking so I don't feel?
Returning to the bike ride, I decided to slow down and enjoy the ride, switching places with my husband Ryan to accompany Ria. Closing my eyes, I embraced the sensations of the journey – the gravel beneath my tires, the breeze on my face, and the warmth of the sun.
I told Ria: we don't have to be as fast as the boys, and we don’t need to try to catch up to them! She lit up and said in her cute little voice: yah! we don’t need to be fast! We can just take our time! I loved that moment so much. Ria knew she was being seen. She saw me slow down and she was happy I wasn’t rushing her.
As I look at how different my kids are, I realize that Ria and Desmond (my two youngest kids) have been living this life of always chasing and being rushed to catch up to being as fast as each other. Rarely do they get to embrace life's moment in their own rhythm. They see me rushing around, trying to do everything all at once, all day. It is rare that they see me slowing down. Even more rare to hear: it's ok, we have time.
"Rushing through life is not happiness. Life is about finding "more" joy in each present moment. There is no destination, and the only moment that matters is now."
Returning to the earlier conversation with my friend about meditation being the key to being able to communicate with spirits...
The Buddha within me said: When you can rise above yourself , you then are able to gain a better perspective, and when you are able to gain more perspective, your awareness grow. When your awareness grows, this allows you to be present and align with the vibration of our greater consciousness, and our greater consciousness is connected to Spirit.
This was me.... I was being soo present in the moment while biking, that my vibration was able to hear and communicate with our greater consciousness. Meditation and mindfulness are pathways to heightened awareness.
The messages are there...
Slow down.....
Breathe.....
Feel everything.....
Remind yourself: You have time... time is on your side ....